But, I Don't Play the Piano

But, I Don't Play the Piano

Molds. Those areas, those roles… those things in life that you’re supposed to fit in to.

Oh, you’re married and young… where are the children?

Oh, your kid goes to this school, you must be on the PTA.

Oh, you’re a woman… you must want to work in the nursery.

Like it or not we all have various expectations that are put on to us because of our family or because of our stage in life or because of our gender. This was never more evident to me than when I became THE Pastor’s wife.

Listen, I am not what I (and I’m certain many others) would consider a “normal” Baptist Pastor’s wife. While there may be many traits or characteristics I could highlight in order to prove this, the most obvious one, at least when I was first donned with the label, was that I don’t play the piano!

For anyone who is unfamiliar with the cultural narrative that is the life of a small Baptist Church’s pastor’s wife let me just tell you… piano player is a common prerequisite. Apparently all pastor’s wives are supposed to do this. I didn’t get that memo. Perhaps it’s in the Bible somewhere…

[Temporary pause as author leaves computer and reads through her study bible checking the index for the words “piano,” “pastor’s wife,” and “nap time”]

Hmmm… not there either.

Maybe there was some sort of meeting, a conference, or a counsel of pastor’s wives that met somewhere and they all voted to make piano playing part of the position. My husband says that’s this was the way the church used to make these decisions… could it have been decided at the Synod of Dort (which is the only one I can remember cause the name sounds funny). If it was, I wasn’t invited.

While it’s fun to joke about not fitting into the stereotypical ministry mold the truth of the matter is that God doesn’t call, use, or make mold-y people (there’s a joke here somewhere). Every woman (pastor’s wife or not) is unique. We have each been created with gifts and abilities specific to us. What’s more, every single one of us is equipped, fully and perfectly by the Holy Spirit.

Every woman has a calling and it’s our responsibility and our privilege to use all that we have been given to bring glory to The Giver. Sometimes this will mean stepping into a mold. Sometimes it will mean stepping out of our comfort zone. Sometimes it’s going to mean doing something that we would never imagine (please Lord, don’t make me start retaking piano lessons). Whatever we do, we need to continually seek ways to serve and honor God, to grow His fame and glory, and to build His Kingdom.

While we don’t have to fit into a mold we are called to be transformed and affixed, as living stones, to our Chief Cornerstone, Jesus (1 Peter 2:4-6). This is what it means to be a woman, or a man, who is a follower of Christ. Let’s get to work and use our gifts to serve one another (1 Peter 4:10-11), giving all the praise and glory back to the one who made us and gave us our gifts in the first place (Romans 11:33-36).

You may not play the piano… ever… but God made, gifted and positioned you to be engaged in the work of His Kingdom in His church.

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Wednesday, 08 July 2020